How the Bachelor and graduating are basically the same thing

A little repost from what will soon be coming from muah on my school of public health’s blog… Also, it’s much more humorous than my current state of mind!

At the risk of confirming many a basic girl stereotype (I’m also in a sorority… double points?), I’m going to explain why there is evidence pointing towards the fact that The Bachelor,¬†a reality TV show giant that is now in it’s 20th season, is basically the same thing as the time leading up to and following your graduation from college. Hear me out: ten things college seniors may or may not have in common with one infamous ABC series.

  1. First of all, you might go into either of these situations thinking “ah, this will be a good time! I’ve come so far! What do I have to lose??”

this is the best

2. Answer: Your dignity and any chances of getting a job if you show up to class like this on a regular basis.


3. The longer you are here, the more you realize you’ll soon be competing against the people around you. Whether that ends up being a job or “true” love on a reality TV show (enforcing gender norms and the idea that everything can be solved by being in a relationship), will be something only the future can tell.

No pressure.

4. Every season, regardless of whether it’s the Bachelor or the Bachelorette, Chris Harrison (the show’s endearing host and wisdom-giver) promises the following…

And as you quickly realize, you probably *have* seen something like this before. In much the same way, while your last year of college sometimes feels like you are the only one who has ever experienced x, y, AND z, odds are, someone else has been in your position too, and that’s a good thing.

5. We all know that one classmate/contestant who makes leaving a little more bearable. Props to you.

6. When in the presence of your friends, just moseying around your gorgeous campus, or thinking about being outside of the college bubble:

7. Senior year is a time to do things that you may have never done, and possibly will never do again. Sometimes you will regret these things.

8. Other times it will be completely worth it. Exhibit A, Stellenbosch Mountain in South Africa, one of the countries the show has traveled to. No regrets if I ended up seeing this view.

9. Everyone’s most dreaded moment:

*all together now* NO NO WE WON’T GO!

10. Whatever journey you’ve had, whether you were the first one back in the limo, or you’re walking across that stage in cap and gown, take some advice from dear Kelsey here and embrace whatever the past three/four/six/18 years has given you. Chances are, your story actually is amazing and not a satirical/narcissistic quote from a reality TV show contestant.


Leaving the current

Like every other person I know,

I spit out a few “need to do more this” and “must do less that” on December 31st, at approximately 10:24 p.m.

Do I write them down? Noooo.

Am I thinking about them by 11:18 p.m.? Haha.

Are these little champagne bubbles going to be tracked and followed throughout the upcoming year (OF COURSE)… or popped after midnight? (100% more likely)

So obviously, I am not the traditional goal making type. I’ve had a funnel for the past 17 years that keeps me moving in a general direction towards something I want, even if along the way I feel like Merlin and Dory right before exiting the East Australian Current.

Naturally, there’ve been times I roll out of the current and kind of go “what now?”, but always manage to jump back in. If school is my East Australian Current however, my exit is coming up real fast.

And after that, if there’s somewhere I want to go, I’ve got to swim to it. None of that easy cruising I’ve enjoyed for 3/4 of my life. Thankfully, I like going new places and doing new things. Unthankfully, I tend to think and dream more about the things I’m going to do rather than spend time actually doing them. What’s a girl to do?

Start a blog and right that shit down amiright? Because, accountability. Goal writing is something I’m at least familiar with, if not for myself then for the people I want to help. I’m actually pretty decent at pinpointing others’ goals, motivating them and holding them accountable; it’s always easier when it’s someone else.

See, I really like the idea of this picture…
*Found on pinterest, s/o to whoever created this

Except I usually stop at “idea,” “try,” or the first “do.”

The more I look though, the more I realize that there¬†have been times when I’ve gone all the way. Success is great. I enjoy the journey of getting there. I just have a problem with keeping track of *all* my “thinks” and “ideas” and so they largely stay that way.

So, 2016, I’m going to try a little something different with you. We’ll just see where it goes. Maybe I’ll surprise myself, or maybe I’ll be humbled again around Christmas Eve 2016, and just reflect on what the year has taught me. I’m going to go in with no expectations, but with enthusiastic intentions.

I’ve already haphazardly written down some 2016 goals, so organizing them a bit more here and then EVEN MORE in my fancy new planner should prove satisfying and useful for myself.

Categories = organization

Throughout 2016

  • Spend time each week doing something specific to appreciate friends/family
  • 2 – 3 blogs a month (up from one a month, which I did manage to accomplish this year)

January 2016

  • Start internship & introduction to “adulting”

Winter/spring 2016

  • Find a manageable and consistent running & riding schedule
  • Set goals to improve health to reduce narcolepsy symptoms
    • Exercise goals
    • Diet changes
    • Praying/meditating
    • Creative endeavors

March/April 2016

  • Start job searching… oye.
  • Make a plan for paying off all those awesome loans

April 2016

  • Complete internship!
  • Evaluate health goals & modify as needed

May 2016

  • Graduate!!
  • Go to Peru??

Summer 2016

  • Get a job I enjoy (doesn’t have to be crazy $$)
  • Find a place to live

Summer or fall 2016

  • Try exercise riding – if it’s amazing, keep doing it
  • Adopt or foster a puppy
  • Evaluate health goals & modify as needed

Winter 2016

  • Have enough $$$ to get the fam some small, thoughtful gifts

Surely I will do some of these things, and surely I will not do some of these things. Which is a-ok. If I don’t start somewhere, I won’t get anywhere,

sunset blur
iPhones & rare sun ftw

which is not how I’d like this year to go. I’d also like for this year to not go as the last few weeks have, with all of zero sunshine. Hopefully this morning is a good omen, even if it only lasted about 40 minutes and all I have to show for it is a shitty iPhone picture.